“Beacon of Hope”
My dear friend, Sheri Blumberg, shared this note on Facebook about her journey grieving her daughter, Tessa. I think it is so important to be highlighting other moms who have survived the loss of their children, and who are fervent in helping others through their pain. Sheri spends much of her time volunteering with the TEARS foundation. Here are her words: After Tessa September 11, 2011 My daughter’s death does not define me. I will not let my life be found in her death. Rather, I will let her life bring meaning to mine. September 28, 2008 split time into two realms for me: before Tessa, and after Tessa. Before…
Helping Helps with Grief
In honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month . . . It had been a month since Caleb died. The dust was settling, and people were getting on with their lives. I was sitting on the couch in the living room staring at the television, googling crazy things like “Why did this happen to me, God?” and watching youtube videos made by other grieving moms that made me cry so hard I would eventually pass out from exhaustion. FUN TIMES. (Note: one of the unfair things about a late-term still birth or infant loss is that I (like many moms) was already on maternity leave. Our bodies are still…
Dear friend whose name I do not know
Dear friend, It has been over a year since I watched you from across the Cheney Stadium baseball field at the TEARS foundation annual remembrance walk. You were waddling, balancing a belly about to burst. You were surrounded by loved ones, your husband holding your hand. And you wore the same shirt I did. The names were different on the back of each of ours; my shirt had my baby’s name on it, and your shirt bore the name of your own baby. As you walked, head held high in grief and plain ol’ stubborn Mama Love that won’t ever quit, I watched grief slowly overtake you. You slowed your…
“I will carry you”
I said to you, “Have no dread or fear . . . The LORD your God, who goes before you, is the one who will fight for you, just as he did for you in Egypt before your very eyes, and in the wilderness, where you saw how the LORD your God carried you, just as one carries a child, all the way that you traveled until you reached this place.”Deuteronomy 1:29-31 All the way that you traveled . . . I can’t believe it’s been 10 weeks since Sam’s surgery. I thought we would be back to normal life by now, settling into the new school year, a new…
